In the beginning I had rational explanations. I had drunk too much coffee. I had had a few beers last night. It's really cold outside. But when I also started to leak after having been to the toilet, it became obvious that I had to be practical about it.
I have no idea when it started. I must have unconsciously denied it for some time. The thought never crossed my mind. And when it did I still denied it. Incontinence? Come on! That only happens to old men and I'm not old.
At first I just used tissue paper in my underwear. It was only a few drops so I could manage until the next time I went. But after a while I started to use my wife's liners. They were self-adhesive and stayed put in my underwear, but couldn't absorb very much. And I worried about the smell.
The situation made me more and more self-conscious and my self-esteem suffered. I started to withdraw from my wife. I made sure we went to bed at different times. Being intimate was out of the question.